Sunday, December 22, 2013

Your Christmas Card

Dear friends,

Your Christmas card didn’t make it into the mail. Truthfully, it never made it out of the store. Not because I don’t love you or value your place in my life, but because I got caught up in the December “to do” list and this item kind of slipped off (not for the first time). So while this note isn’t the same as a card showing up in your mailbox (perhaps by Canada post home delivery, soon to be obsolete), it nonetheless comes from the heart.

My wishes for you this season include:
  • Time with those you love, whomever that includes – friends, family, cats, dogs – the people and beings who make you feel loved and appreciated no matter the season.
  • Time for yourself – A chance to take a breath, sleep in, read a book or watch a movie – whatever gives you a chance to relax and rejuvenate.
  • Good food and the time to enjoy it – And maybe a good pair of “buffet pants” and a comfortable sofa for post-gluttony napping.
  • Good health – May you feel strong in mind and body and able to enjoy all of the above.
And as we enter into 2014, may you dream big and plan big enough to bring your dreams to fruition. I look forward to continuing to share the journey.

With gratitude for your place in my life,

Margaret

Sunday, September 1, 2013

Here comes the bride...

I don't remember ever not knowing Catherine. By the time we started school, we'd already known each other for what felt like years (and probably was two or three). On our first day of school, we posed with Marilou (a friend who was a year ahead of us in school), proudly wearing the smocked dresses Catherine's mother had made and holding our dishpans full of school supplies. It was the first of many milestones we'd celebrate together.

There weren't many days of my childhood that I didn't see Catherine. On summer days I'd get up bright and early, eager to call her to play. My mother insisted I wait until the respectable time of 10 a.m. The hours seemed interminable - after all, summer was wasting away. With our other friends, we would often spend much of the day in Catherine's pool (where I learned to swim) and then set our towels up on the asphalt driveway while we dried off (sun safety was not on our list of priorities back then). When we weren't swimming, we were playing hide-and-seek, cockyolly (a variation of hide-and-seek) or soccer baseball.

During the winter, we'd spend hours outside until our woolen mittens were full of miniature snowballs and our feet were numb with cold. No matter the season, our parents' standard instructions were, "Go play outside." One Christmas, when both Catherine and I were young (probably pre-school), my parents bought a small Christmas tree for the basement and let Catherine and I decorate it. We covered it with construction paper chains and tinsel. Lots of tinsel. More tinsel than should ever grace the branches of a tree. It was almost completely silver when we were finished. And we thought it was beautiful.

We spent our share of time inside too - watching "the soaps" (much to my parents' chagrin) or game shows, or playing board games. And I'd occasionally go to Catherine's for sleepovers (where I would inevitably call my parents to pick me up before midnight, thus the "occasional" nature of the sleepovers).


But Catherine was more than a conveniently located playmate. She was a true friend. When I was in grade three, my first pet, a guinea pig named Goldie, died. My mom was looking after Catherine that day, so she was with us when it happened. I remember a tear running down my cheek and Catherine, without a word, pulled out her sticker book and gave me her orange-smelly Smurfette sticker (barely scratched and sniffed). I don't think Catherine even remembers that, but I always will.

When Catherine's family took off on a year-long European adventure the year I was 12, I wondered what I would do without her for a whole year. Much to my delight, the family came home after six months. Best. Gift. Ever.

While I fell out of touch with other friends, Catherine remained in my life. We went to movies together (where I  and other friends would beg her not to talk or ruin the ending), we talked endlessly about our favourite TV shows, we hung out, we told stories (Catherine's always been good at that) and we laughed - a lot.

High school came and went, university came and went and whether we went days or weeks without talking, we'd always pick up just where we left off.

Catherine has always been independent, has always lived life on her terms. She'd have been the first to tell you she'd never get married - she could never stand living with someone else for that long, wouldn't put up with anyone's crap. Then came Craig. When Catherine introduced him to us, we figured he must be somebody special. When he moved in, we wondered if he might even be the exception to her no-marriage-for-me rule. He "got" her. And she got him. And they loved each other for it. Catherine and Craig have many things in common - a love of food that could challenge the most devout foodie, a love of dogs (particularly their hounds Wallace and Harriet, who live a life that is the envy of many dogs), a love of camping (although this was an acquired taste for Catherine as far as we can tell) and a profound appreciation of naps (usually cuddled with a canine).

Today, Catherine and Craig exchange vows. Their wedding in Niagara Falls will be simple - just family and close friends (while I am not there in person I am absolutely there in heart). Catherine will proudly tell you she bought her wedding dress and shoes for less than $60 (together). I don't think she has spent a moment's stress on wedding planning, which is as it should be. Rather, she's focused on what matters - the fact that she and Craig "get" one another and love one another, today and for the rest of their lives. I couldn't wish for anything more for my lifelong friend. Catherine and Craig - I look forward to watching as you grow old together (not too quickly, you understand, as I'll be aging along with you).

Wednesday, June 19, 2013

Copy that.

Tuesday, June 18, 2013

9:30 a.m. – Begin making photocopies.

9:33 a.m. – Jam photocopier.

9:33 to 9:40 a.m. – Open and close random doors and drawers of photocopier, trying to make sense of useless diagram telling me where it’s jammed, while muttering angrily under my breath.

9:45 a.m. – Call photocopier company and request a service call (the sign on the copier specifically says don’t try to fix it yourself).

9:45 a.m. to 1 p.m. Do other work, eat lunch, etc.

1 p.m. – Pass by photocopier. It’s fixed! Try again to make copies.

1:01 p.m.– Jam photocopier.

1:01 to 1:02 p.m. – Half-heartedly open and close photocopier doors and drawers quickly, vow never to use photocopier again, then go back to my office. I’m not calling the service guy again. Too embarrassing. I’ll just leave it alone (apologies to the next user).

Wednesday, June 19, 2013

11:30 a.m. (after returning from morning meeting): On my chair are several mangled papers. Someone has found me out. They have removed my offending papers (which had my name on them) from the copier and left them for me.

11:35 a.m. Check voicemails. “This is Rob from Ricoh Photocopier Service calling. I can’t come by today to fix your photocopier today, but will come tomorrow. If you need to reach me, call me at (mumble, mumble) 460-36099 (eight digits?).” I listen to the message three times, and still can’t decipher the number.

11:38 a.m. Try calling 460-3609 (it’s as good a guess as any). Voicemail answers: “Hi. This is Drew.” Ooops. Wrong number. Hang up.

11:40 a.m. Cory, my co-worker, says, “Oh by the way, the photocopier guy was looking for you this morning.”

Me: He was? This morning?
Cory: Yes.
Me: Ohhhh…he must have left that message yesterday, not today.
Cory: Maybe. By the way, I fixed the photocopier.
Me: YOU fixed the photocopier?
Cory: Yeah. I went to use it and it was jammed so I looked in all the doors and pulled out the jammed paper. I saw your name on it and figured you might want it, so put it on your chair.
Me: Oops. I guess the photocopier guy came for nothing. (PS How did Cory find the papers when I couldn't?)

11:45 a.m. Phone rings. It’s 460-3609. “Ah, photocopier guy!” I think, recognizing the number. I pick up the receiver and don’t even bother with the usual formalities:

Me: “Hi. I’m really sorry. I requested a service call yesterday because the photocopier was broken but now it’s fixed so you don’t need to come anymore. I’m sorry for the confusion.”

Voice on other end of phone: “Who is this?”

Me: “It’s Margaret Angus. You’re the Ricoh photocopier service guy, right?”

Voice: “No. You called my number.”

Me: “Oh right! Sorry! I was trying to reach the photocopier guy and he left me a voicemail but he mumbled the number and I couldn’t make it out but it sounded kind of like this number. But obviously it wasn’t, and you’re not the photocopier guy and I’m really sorry. I’m going to let you get on with your day now.”

Voice, laughing: “OK.”

11:55 a.m. (notice red light flashing on phone, indicating another voicemail. Was it there this whole time?) “Hi. This is Rob from Ricoh Photocopier Service. I came and fixed your photocopier. The stapling feature wasn’t working so I cleaned that out and now it doesn’t seem to be a problem.”

11:56 a.m. I knew that photocopier was broken.

Thursday, May 23, 2013

12 Life Lessons I Learned from Italians


All experiences teach us something; sometimes, if we're lucky, they teach us many things. My trip to Italy reminded me of some important life lessons:
  1. Do what you love. The world needs your passion, and will respond in kind.
  2. Good coffee is an art. Appreciate its subtleties and richness, and take it in slowly.
  3. Good food is real food; keep it simple. When preparing a meal, use ancient grains, olive oil (lots of it), spices, cheese, wine, and love. Don’t underestimate the last ingredient – it lends the strongest flavour.
  4. Eat in the company of people you enjoy. Take your time. Talk to one another. Share stories. Laugh.
  5. Be kind to animals and children. They – and you – will be better for it.
  6. Embrace more, and kiss on both cheeks.
  7. Celebrate holidays and take at least a day off on either side.
  8. Take a nice long break in the afternoon. Everything else will wait.
  9. Don’t worry if you can’t speak the same language. A smile, a nod and a thumbs up will do nicely.
  10. Life is meant to be enjoyed. Let go of the rush and enjoy the moment – it won’t come again.
  11. Appreciate art and artists. 
  12. Give love, accept love, express love, knowing that in the end, it is all that matters.

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

Florence and Farewell (Letter # 16 from Italy: May 2 and 3, 2013)


Day 1 in Florence is a bit of a blur. After a fitful night’s sleep, I catch the 6:39 a.m. train from Pieve San Lorenzo to Florence, arriving mid-morning. My first stop is for coffee and a pastry (this has become our usual mid-morning ritual, and although Judith blessedly got up early to make me coffee before I hit the road – or the tracks as it were – I’m ready for a fresh hit). I go into the first café I see, and order a café latte and an apricot tart. We’ve become so spoiled by the prices of coffee and pastry (3 or 4 Euros usually gets both) that I am more than a bit surprised when the man behind the counter tells me I owe him 7 Euros (this is my first hint at Florence's elevated prices).
I’m unable to check into the hotel for a couple of hours, so leave my backpack there and begin wandering the city with Rick Steves’ Florence and Tuscany in hand (opened to the map of Florence). I stop at the Santa Maria de Novella Cathedral (literally packed with people – a shock after several days in the open Italian countryside!) and then continue roaming. 
My lack of sleep is catching up with me, and while I intend to walk to a couple of specific destinations, I keep finding myself falling off the map (which I blame on Florence and not any navigational failing on my part). When I stop to ask a girl in a shop where exactly I am, she points to the air above the map, and directs me back to the centre of the city. I manage to find my way to the Uffizi Gallery, where I’ve booked a ticket for 3:15 p.m.
As Rick’s book advised, I reserved my ticket in advance, saving myself the hours-long lineup outside the gallery (instead waiting 20 minutes or so to get in). There are hundreds of people in the Uffizi and it is hot (I am guessing more than 30 degrees with all of the body heat). I wander through room after room of paintings, including those by Botticelli. Many of the paintings, not surprisingly, depict Madonna and child, or other religious themes. While they are stunning, I am tired and hot, and desperately need a nap. I find myself thinking, “You should be enjoying this more,” and then cut myself some slack. I’ve seen the highlights of the gallery, and now need to lie down.  
I head back to the hotel – the Soggiorno Anna Maria (recommended by Rick), and fall onto the bed. I open the window to let in fresh air, which amplifies the sound of a street musician playing what I guess to be a saxophone. He knows only one tune (or at least plays only one over and over). His audience is clearly the passersby and not those standing still (or lying down in my case). In spite of that, I manage to doze for an hour, at which point I grab a shower and head down the street to the Trattoria Katti (owned by the same people who run this hotel).
I sit at a table outside and enjoy the 20-degree evening. T-bone steak is listed under their specialties, so I decide to order it. It is listed in grams rather than the ounces that I’m used to, so I have no idea how much I’m ordering. The minimum order is 500 grams, so I go with that. As it turns out, that is a lot of meat (a pound, Judith tells me later). Separately, I also order roasted potatoes and grilled vegetables, figuring I’ll have a balanced meal. I am slightly embarrassed when the waitress delivers my pound of steak, a bowl of potatoes and a platter of grilled vegetables.
The couple at the table to my left is American – from Florida. We start to chat and soon the couple to the right of me joins in the conversation. Bob and Betty are from Calgary and have just arrived in Florence after having been in Venice. While they are over 80, they still travel lots and are planning to rent a car tomorrow (Bob says they can only rent cars in certain cities because others have an age limit, which he exceeds). Their travels have taken them on many adventures, and he recommends several destinations, including Galway, Irelend, where I must apparently have fish and chips (noted). About an hour before they actually leave, Betty says they should get back to their hotel. They then proceed to have a coffee and a limoncella and tell us more stories – about their trips to California to visit their daughter, about the vacations they took with Bob’s brother (who has recently died) and his wife. They finally make their way back to the hotel, as do the couple from Florida (whose names I didn’t get), who have an early morning tomorrow to get back to the US. I head back to the hotel and remember little else before falling fast asleep.
The next morning I am well rested and Florence appears much friendlier and easier to navigate than it did yesterday (it also helps that the sun is shining; yesterday it rained). After a continental breakfast at the hotel, I wander to the Ponte Vecchio and wander along the water, watching kayakers making their way under the bridge. 
I stop in a little art shop and buy a piece of mosaic art depicting the Tuscan countryside, and continue walking. The streets are filled with vendors, many of whom are selling the same things – leather goods, of course, and the usual souvenirs.
I have a date at the Accademia at 11 a.m. David awaits. Seventeen feet tall with features perfectly chiseled (literally), he is even more magnificent than I could have imagined. His muscles and tendons are so exquisitely crafted that I half expect to see his hand lift the rock within it, or his chest move in and out. Michelangelo was 26 when he started David, 29 when he finished the masterpiece made of Carrara marble (taken from the Garfagnana region of Italy where we are staying). It is difficult to imagine such a gift, such drive to create perfection. I stare for several minutes before moving on to look at the rest of the gallery (which holds only minimal interest when compared to David, the exceptions being Michelangelo’s other sculptures, several unfinished).
I return to David and circle the statue again, then stand still looking directly at his gaze. Visitors are not allowed to take photos, and even if you were, they would not come close to capturing his magic. On my way out, I consider buying a postcard, but they are flat. I return to take one last look at David so my last memory is of the real thing, not a dim reflection on paper.
I head back to Trattoria Katti for lunch (lasagna followed by panna cotta with strawberries and coffee) and then realize I am ready to head home to Pieve San Lorenzo. I catch the next train.
I return home to find Judith cooking supper – ravioli, sautéed tomatoes and other vegetables and a Greek salad. She has invited Francesca and Paolo for supper, even picking up ingredients from the store (thin layers of pre-made cake, cream, Nutella and strawberries) to make a cake to celebrate Paolo’s birthday, which is tomorrow. We enjoy a lovely dinner with Francesca and Paolo, and sing Happy Birthday to Paolo (in English) as we bring out the cake. 
We invite Paola (who owns the apartment and is next door) to come and join us for cake, and we all enjoy the delicious combination of coffee, hazelnut chocolate and strawberries as we talk about everything from the Romans to travel to American TV (ER, Dallas and General Hospital are among the shows that have been dubbed in Italian). Francesca promises to come to Nova Scotia to visit (and wants to see Prince Edward Island), and vows she will come in February (I strongly recommend against this and suggest spring, summer or fall are better alternatives. She says she will not come in the summer, so we will try to convince her of fall. We cannot in good conscience let her pay money to visit the Maritimes in February).
Our guests leave about 9, as we have an early morning; we will catch the 6 a.m. train. Francesca says she will be there at 5:45 to take us to the train station and we tell her no, we will walk (it is only five minutes). She agrees but says we must call her if we need a lift.
We are up at 5 a.m. to grab a quick breakfast (the usual bread, cheese and coffee) and are out the door at 5:45. Francesca is outside waiting for us. “You came!” we say, delighted, although feeling bad that she has gotten up so early on our account. “This is no problem,” she assures us. “I wake up early.” She takes us to the train station, where Judith buys us a round of coffee/cappuccino. Our train pulls up at 6 a.m. and we say goodbye to Francesca, our new friend, with the Italian embrace and kiss on both cheeks. We promise to stay in touch, and we will.
And with that, we are off. Grazie, Francesca. Grazie, Pieve San Lorenzo. Grazie, Italia. I will be back.

Tuesday, May 21, 2013

An afternoon at Silvia and Carlo's (Letter #15 from Italy: May 1, 2013)

The sun is shining, so we drink our coffee on the terrace (one of my favourite Italian pastimes). We see Paola below. She is waving an Italian/English dictionary in her hand and gesturing for me to come down and meet her at the door, which I do. She points to the word “scrivere,” which means “to write,” then points to the Italian word for “book” and then to “bambino” (children). Francesca has told her we are writers. I say, “Si,” then look up the word for “publish” and say “Judith, si. Me, no. Not yet.” She nods. “Nome?” she asks. “Names?” I confirm. “Si.” She hands me her pen and points to the inside of her dictionary. “You want me to write our names?” I ask. “Si,” she says. I do, and she asks me to confirm which of us is which. “I am Margaret. Judith upstairs,” I say, pointing. “Grazie,” she says, and is off, likely to google us. I hope she is not disappointed!

Today we will walk back to Francesca’s, which Francesca and our new Italian friends told us would take about 30 minutes (2.5 kilometres). We suggested it might be wise to allow extra time for us to get lost. “It is not possible to get lost,” said Francesca, and Rosita and Maria agreed. They do not know us well.

We set out from Pieve San Lorenzo at 10:45. Our instructions are simple: Cross the bridge, go right, go straight. We follow them to the letter (we tried to pay attention on the drive home last night, but it was dark. I do recall there being a turn at one point, but recollect little of the specifics and figure it will be obvious to us). The walk is uphill all the way, with many twists and turns. It’s a beautiful day – mid 20s with a slight breeze – so good for walking. After 45 minutes, however, we begin to question the Italians’ sense of distance and time, as there is no indication we are near our destination. At each curve in the road, I am hopeful. Judith is more pragmatic. By the time we’ve been walking an hour, we Francesca texts us: “You lost?” We call her and tell her where we are. “Oh, you are far away,” she says. “Stay there. I will pick you up.”
While we wait, I talk to the goats and sheep in a nearby field. 


Within a few minutes, Francesca pulls up. She is laughing. “I cannot believe you got lost!” she says. She explains that we failed to veer left upon leaving the village (we went straight instead, as we thought we were supposed to) and so took an extended route up the mountain. No worries; we are back on track now.
We stop at Francesca and Paolo’s for a drink of water. While we’re there, Judith also waters Francesca’s pansies, some of which are drooping sadly. Later, Judith tells Silvia and Carlo that the plants were dying. Francesca protests: “They were not dying. They were relaxing!”

Francesca, Paolo, Judith and I spend the afternoon at Carlo and Silvia’s farm just a few minutes away. They have prepared a magnificent spread on a long table in their outdoor “living room,” which overlooks their olive grove and gardens, and has a spectacular view of the mountains. We are treated to bread, salami, cheese, wine, a dish similar to risotto but made with spelt (an ancient grain – 2,000 years old, which they grow here on their farm),pastry with spinach, and foccaccia, also made with spelt.

We are surrounded by Carlo and Silvia’s many animals (dogs, cats and hens wander the yard); it is wonderful.


I also get a chance to meet Italo, one of their two donkeys (Francesca tells us that Silvia’s mother was none too pleased when they named the donkey “Italo,” which was her father’s name). Judith asks why they have donkeys. “I like them,” says Silvia, which is surely the best reason of all. Also, she says, whenever anyone comes to the house, the donkeys sound their characteristic “hee haw,” making them more reliable than any alarm system. I ask Silvia if the donkeys are friendly; she says they are. I later approach the fence and Italo comes to greet me (much like a dog would, I can't help but thinking). I scratch his forehead and face and say, “That’s a good donkey!”

We finish the afternoon with coffee, followed by a tour of the nearby homes that Silvia and Carlo rent out to lucky vacationers.

Paolo offers to drive us home, but we insist on walking. Francesca walks with us for the first few minutes to ensure we’re headed in the right direction. We have a leisurely walk home (downhill), and even with several stops to pat horses and take pictures of scenery, we are back in Pieve San Lorenzo in 40 minutes.


Although the clock says it’s suppertime, neither of us can imagine eating for some time yet (those who know me will know how rarely I am in this state). I am full – in belly and in heart.

Sunday, May 19, 2013

Dinner at Francesca and Paolo's (Letter #14 from Italy: April 30, 2013)


Francesca has been hospitable to us beyond all expectations.  Tonight she has invited us to dinner with her and her husband, Paolo, and has even come to pick us up and take us to their place. On the way, we stop at her brother- and sister-in-law’s farm (Carlo and Silvia - they’re not actually related but that’s how they refer to one another) to say hello, see their beautiful gardens and meet their many animals (four dogs, a few cats, at least two hens and two donkeys. Francesca says if an animal needs a home, Carlo and Sylvia will take it in. I like them already).



They show us around, and Carlo apologizes for the length of the lawn (I hadn’t noticed). “It’s a huge job mowing a lawn this big,” says Judith. “It’s a ri-di-cu-lous job,” agrees Carlo. “I just finish the lawn and I have to start again!” They show us around their beautiful gardens – peonies, lilacs (a pinker shade than we have in Nova Scotia), lavender, rosemary, and much more. Francesca tells us it’s because of Carlo and Silvia that she and Paolo bought a place nearby (without the yard and garden. Too much work. They visit Carlo and Silvia when they want a garden). Our visit is quick, but we plan to come back tomorrow for coffee and/or wine. I’m looking forward to it already.

Francesca and Paolo’s place is just around the corner; they live within a large stone structure that used to be the estate of a wealthy landowner. Today the building is split into 14 units. Francesca and Paolo live in one flat and doing extensive renovations on the flat above. Eventually, they will move into the upstairs flat and rent the lower one (Francesca says the upstairs flat will be ready in a month – an ambitious timeline – because they are expecting guests).
We start out with bread, wine and several varieties of cheese, two of which are sheep’s cheese. All are delicious. Then Francesca serves risotto with asparagus and olive oil (also wonderful) and a blend of sautéed vegetables. Francesca mixes water and wine – she says it is a Venetian custom that horrifies other Italians. I try it – and like it.
Judith happens to notice Francesca’s toaster – stainless steel with removable grills for toasting (similar to a setup I’ve seen used for camping). Francesca says a friend of hers gave it to her when she worked in the music business. Have we heard of Sharday? It turns out Francesca worked for an Italian record company for several years, and met several big stars (she tells us the story of the time she made pasta for Mick Jagger and was too nervous to eat it herself).
Francesca is expecting other guests shortly – a few locals who stop by for an hour once a week to learn and practice English. Tonight we’re joined by Rosita and Maria. Rosita brings lemon pie (torta limone); she is a magnificent baker and I tell her so (and just in case she doesn’t understand my English or there’s any room for misinterpretation, I eat two pieces). Throughout the evening’s conversation, when words fail to get the point across (either in Italian or English), we resort to gestures and sound effects (like the honking of a car horn and the meowing of a cat).
Because Rosita and Maria live in Pieve San Lorenzo, they generously offer to drive us home. Although both are relative beginners in speaking English, Maria is more confident. On the way to the car, I tell them I am trying to learn a few words in Italian. “How do you find the grammar?” asks Maria, genuinely interested. “Oh, I haven’t gotten to any grammar yet,” I say. “I only use nouns.”
While Maria lives in the community before ours, Rosita tells her she’s coming with her to drop us off. “You’re my translator!” she says to Maria, slightly panicked. We all laugh. We say goodnight/goodbye/thank you in a mix of English and Italian, and Judith and I head inside; it's been another full day in Italia.

Saturday, May 18, 2013

Wildlife, coffee, picnicking and Gino (Letter #13 from Italy: April 30, 2013)


It’s day two with the car, and once again I’m in the navigator’s seat. I am becoming slightly more comfortable with the role, although cautious of becoming too cocky (Judith says I deserve a navigator’s badge, and I have to tell you, the thought of it has started to go to my head).
With a few brief wrong turns, we make it to our intended destinations largely unscathed (it helps that neither of us is bothered if we happen to get on the “wrong” road. We’ve seen some amazing things by taking routes we didn’t plan on taking – today that included a baby sheep eating from her mother).
Our first destination is Orichiella (Or-ick-ee-ella), a nature reserve. We head up, up, up an old, winding road (all of the roads around here appear to be winding; this one is old and not as well kept as the others we’ve driven). When we reach the top, we get out to wander around. It would appear there’s not much happening; we suspect we’ve arrived just before the beginning of the official season, so the information centre is closed.We do manage to see a few deer (in an enclosed area). 


And as we wander an open area of the park, we also come across several large, fresh piles of animal waste, and see that the ground has been torn up in several places by an animal. From what we know of the wildlife that inhabit this area, we think these may be the evidence of wild boars (cinghialle, who dig up the ground in search of truffles). We are content to make it back to the car without actually seeing any face to face.
We also spot another rare breed – a coffee shop in the mountains that is actually open. It is almost lunchtime, but we opt instead for coffee and chocolate and pear pie (divine). Lunch will wait.
We spend the next couple of hours driving the rural roads of Tuscany, stopping along the way for photo stops (although we know they will not do the mountaintop view justice), a picnic lunch (we packed fresh bread, cheese, olives and fruit before we left this morning) and a walk around the town of Castiglione.


Our last stop is Castel Nuevo, where we return the car. We call Gino, the Scottish/Italian who arranged our car rental, and he meets us at the train station so we can follow him back to the shop. From there, he drives us back to the station. Tomorrow (May 1) will be a rare holiday for Gino. He will spend it with his family (his kids are 5 and 7). 
We are grateful for Gino’s kindness, and tell him so as he pulls up to the station and helps us get our bags out of the trunk. He says he always tries to do these things for people because he’d like to think someone would do it for him if the roles were reversed. “It’s just the way it should be,” he says. That it should. I ask him if we can take his picture, and he agrees, although insists he’s not photogenic and won’t look at the camera. In the picture, he is clearly uncomfortable. Part of me feels I shouldn’t have asked, and another part feels the photo captures him perfectly as he is. Grazie, Gino.

Friday, May 17, 2013

Tuscany by car (Letter #12 from Italy: April 29, 2013)


We decide to rent a car for a couple of days to get to some of the places we can’t access by train (or foot, as ambitious as we are).  The nearest car rental place is in Castel Nuevo, so we take a train. Francesca has called and made the arrangements for us; all we have to do is call the place when we arrive at the train station, and someone will pick us up. This someone is Gino, a dark-haired man of about 40 who speaks English with a strong Scottish accent. His parents were from Italy, and he returned after many years in Scotland. I ask him how he likes living here, and he shrugs. His wife and kids are here; he’s settled. It’s like anywhere – life is what you make of it. He travels somewhere every year, choosing to see the world rather than save a lot of money. Life is short.
We are grateful for Gino, as neither of the other employees speak English. We fill out the necessary paperwork and our on our way. The car is a standard (a manual, as they say here) so Judith’s in the driver’s seat (at some point in my life, I will learn to drive a standard). I am appointed the navigator, a role I take on only out of necessity (maps are not my forte, you may recall, and fall under Judith’s normal area of responsibility. The pressure is on).
We are headed to Vente del Grotto to tour the caves there. We get there successfully, me pointing the way and Judith skillfully handling the many twists and turns of rural Italian roads. We do a one-hour tour of the caves. It is my first exposure to stalagmites and stalactites in real life, my previous experience (in books) through Mr. Burton’s grade 8 science class (until now, the only time I’d used that knowledge was in Trivial Pursuit). Not surprisingly, the real thing proves much more impressive; we are looking at thousands of years of nature’s work in perfect formation. It is 10.7 degrees in the cave today, as it is every day (every moment, in fact) of the year, no matter what the outside temperature.

I confess to having a few fleeting moments of wondering what would happen if we were to be caught in here in an earthquake (a fate that is unlikely, but I imagine unpleasant). As if reading my thoughts, our guide says that the formations in the cave serve as a sort of cement holding the rock in place – it is anti-seismic, she says. In 1985, there was an earthquake in the area while a tour was taking place in the cave. The people outside were panicked. When the tour was over and the people emerged from the cave, they wondered what all of the fuss was about. They hadn’t felt a thing.
After Vente del Grotto, we drive to the nearby Calomini Hermitage, a monastery. It is quite and serene (no surprise there, I guess. Good choice, 7th century monks).



From there we seek out somewhere to eat. We are still mastering Italian mealtimes. Generally, restaurants do not open until 7 p.m. unless they are pizzerias or cafés. Having come upon several closed restaurants, we decide to drive into nearby Barga to find somewhere to eat. We manage to find a small pizzeria/store, so grab a couple of slices to keep us going.
As we’re standing on the sidewalk trying to decide where to go next, I hear someone calling “Margaret!  Margaret!” I barely register my name since I know no one here. “Margaret! Margaret!” the call comes again from a nearby car. I turn to see Mark, Michelle, Lizzie and Steven (our British friends from yesterday) in a passing car. “Wait right there!” says Mark, as they park the car. Funnily, they had not planned on coming to Barga, nor had we.
“We were out looking at houses,” says Lizzie, handing us a brochure for a house they saw this afternoon.
“Are you planning to buy?” asks Judith.
“Oh no,” says Lizzie. “It’s a rental. We picked it up for you.” She hands us the brochure (which likely falls significantly outside of our price range, but looks lovely, and how better to spend a summer than in Tuscany?).
We go our separate ways and explore the city, which is, like many we’ve visited here, built on a mountain. We have spent lots of time on this trip walking and climbing stairs, which is likely fortuitous given our diet of bread, cheese, pasta and gelato (one a day, which is actually quite restrained, if you consider the allure of gelato).
Finally, we head back to the car, wanting to return home before dark. Once again, I am in the navigator’s seat, and once again, I navigate us to our destination without a single wrong turn (no small feat around here). Perhaps I underestimated my abilities. All the same, I am turning the responsibility for map-reading back to Judith as soon as we return the car. 

Wednesday, May 15, 2013

"A little piece of paradise" (Letter #11 from Italy: April 28, 2013)


Francesca picks us up at 8:30 a.m. to go with her to the nearby village of Gorfigliano. The Custodi del Piano, a local group (of which Francesca is a member) dedicated to preserving nature in the area, is holding a fundraising event. We have no idea what to expect, but Francesca has brought along two extra pair of rubber boots for us. We stop along the way for a caffe (Francesca tells us she cannot bear to go without her morning cappuccino. We are agreeable, being fond of our coffee as well).
We arrive and are introduced to Alessandro, who owns the land we'll be exploring today, and is a founding member of the Custodi del Piano. Formed two years ago with three members, it has grown to 15 ("Slowly, slowly," says Alessandro). 
Today's adventure will include foraging for edible herbs with an expert who has come to the village from Lucca
The guide speaks Italian only, so we understand only what Francesca and others who speak English tell us. When the guide points out several herbs, he says, "mortale." We get the message. Mark, one of the other participants on the tour (he and his wife Michelle are from England and have a home in Tuscany), shares a piece of wisdom from the tour guide: "In nature, whenever you have a lethal plant, the one next to it will be the antidote. That's the balance of nature." I trust in nature's brilliance, but won't be putting this one to the test today.
Although many herbs are new to me, we see the familiar dandelion (dente de lion - lion's tooth - I will never look at the weed the same way again!). Francesca, braver and slightly more familiar than we are (although she still counts herself a beginner forager), gathers some thyme and other herbs.
For me, today is less about the herbs and more about the people and the surroundings. We are rambling the fields with locals and a few other visitors, and while we can't understand the specifics of the tour, we can soak up the experience.
The ground is wet from more than a day of rain, feeling spongy beneath our feet; the boots are a blessing. Since Judith and I can't understand the tour itself, Mark regales us with stories and facts. On the hillside, we can see a marble quarry - home of Carrerra marble. According to Mark, Michaelangelo would only carve Carrerra marble. Picasso, in addition to being a painter, was also a sculptor. He once sculpted a large horse (40x50x30) out of marble and a woman said to him, "It must be difficult to carve a horse from a block of marble." He responded, "Not really. I just cut out all the bits that don't look like a horse!"

When Mark and Michelle were househunting in Tuscany, they noted to the real estate agent that no one grows flowers. "You can't eat flowers," said the agent, and Mark notes that the Tuscans waste nothing – all plants can all be eaten. "They have a memory of hunger," says Francesca. "It is a long memory," says Mark. He says in Lucca, there are flowers everywhere (we saw this for ourselves). It is a sign of wealth.
Francesca tells us that there are many wild boar (cinghiale) in the area. While one species of local boar originated in the area, humans introduced another species, which produces more offspring, and since there are no natural predators to kill the boar, they are now overpopulated; human intervention gone awry as it does so many other places when trying to interfere with nature.
We see and hear swallows (rondine) as they swoop in the sky. "They are a sign of spring," says Francesca, who tells us the birds winter in Africa.
One of the participants stops and kneels down on the ground, staring. Several of us gather to see a butterfly (farfalla), whose wings look as if they've been intricately painted by a skilled Italian artist. On top of each wing is a small leaf-like shape that looks as if it's been woven in gold. Its wings move almost imperceptibly in and out, like breathing.
We walk past a stream, water running over raw marble and rock, and I wade into the water in my borrowed rubber boots. "You are a little bit crazy," laughs Francesca.
As we walk back toward the farm for lunch, I have a moment to talk to Alessandro. While he works outside of the village during the week to make a living, his heart is here - on the land. This place, which is his love and that of his family, fills his weekends. "You do that you like," he says. "You do that you like. Psychology," he says, pointing to his head, "...and soul," he says, placing his hand on his heart.
The group returns to the farm, hungry for lunch. There are tents, tables and benches set up outside, and there are bread and wine on the table. Before long, more food is delivered to us - a form of scrambled eggs mixed with herbs, followed by pasta with a sauce of oil and nuts, prepared outdoors by our hosts (we watched them work the pasta with their hands first thing this morning). 

Francesca gets a fresh bottle of red wine and begins to pour. She says, "Sometimes people ask me: ‘Do you drink wine?’ I say, ‘I'm from Venice!’" Not suprisingly, we have noticed many grapevines in our travels so far. Judith asks if many people use their own grapes to make wine to sell, or if they simply make it for their own consumption. Mark tells us farmers will sell their grapes (as long as they are certified as a particular variety, such as Merlot) to a co-operative, which will press them and make them into wine. "No sulfites. 100 per cent wine," he says. It is delicious. Mark recommends trying "fragolino," a light strawberry sparkling wine, while we are in Italy. I will keep an eye out for it.
 Today the clouds have been unpredictable, sometimes sprinkling, sometimes not, but generously they spare us a downpour. As we sit eating our lunch, the sun bursts out; everyone cheers.
As enjoyable as the food and wine is the conversation. Topics include the Scottish separatist movement (a conversation led by Mark and a friend from Britain) and separatist movements in general (Judith and I are able to chime in with our knowledge of Quebec), and the state of the European Union. Unemployment is remarkably high in the EU (one of the men says it's more than 50 per cent among youth in Spain). Francesca says many young people are living off the retirement savings of their parents.
Steven, a friend of Mark and Michelle’s, also from Britain, pipes up. "We're in a field drinking wine. Life is not so bad!" Francesca joins in. "Couragio. We must be courageous in everything. Let's toast - to the future - have faith!" We hold up our plastic cups of wine and touch them together. To faith - and to the future.
We finish our meal, and one of the lovely women who prepared our meal comes to see how we enjoyed it. "We did it with a lot of love," she says. "We could taste it," I tell her.
Before we leave, I stop to thank Alessandro. As is customary, he leans in to kiss me on both cheeks, and I do the same to him. "Thank you for coming," he says.
"Thank you for having us."
"It's a little piece of paradise here," he says. "Tell your friends."
"It is a little piece of paradise,” I say. “I will." 


Tuesday, May 14, 2013

A Country Gone to the Dogs (Letter #10 from Italy: April 27, 2013)


We have come to a country of dog-lovers; I am at home. Dogs here go everywhere with their owners – to markets, to restaurants and cafes, wandering the streets of the city. Almost without exception, the dogs are well behaved, friendly and gentle (I think it may simply be a factor of their contentment). 
Today we pass by a gated house with a sign: Attenti al Cane (Beware of Dog). Seeing us on the other side of the gate, a German Shepherd comes bounding toward us, tail wagging. He sits beside the sign (which pictures a ferocious dog) and looks at us with soulful eyes, oblivious to the irony.

 Cats here are a different story. They seem fiercely independent (even moreso than North American cats, although clearly I haven’t been scientific in my study. I’ve not sought out a random sample of cats in either location). Most of the cats we’ve seen have been strays, which may account for part of their indifference to humans. Like the dogs, they seem content, but their contentment seems to lie in their freedom rather than in any connection to people. Last night we passed a stray cat, walking along a brick wall above the city of La Spezia. I made the universal (I think) “psst…psst” cat call sound and reached my hand in his direction. I swear he looked over the edge of the wall, contemplated his chances of surviving the jump, and weighed it against the risk of me touching him. I decided to spare him having to choose to risk any of his lives, and moved along. When I looked back, he was continuing his independent journey. 


So I will give the Italian cats a wide berth, respecting their freedom and space. And I will continue to revel in a country devoted to its dogs, a species, much like the Italians themselves, with a gift for love.


Monday, May 13, 2013

Castelnuovo de Garfagnana and home, sweet home (Letter #9 from Italy: April 27, 2013)

It pours rain, so we don’t rush to get up and going. I am glad to have the chance to eat a leisurely breakfast (coffee, of course, and a sweetbread we bought in Riomaggiore) and catch up on my writing.
Last night, we put a load of laundry in the washer in our apartment. While the cleaning portion of the cycle appears to have gone swimmingly, the spin cycle receives a failing grade. The washer simply doesn’t spin, leaving our clothes drenched. Given the weather, putting them outside to dry isn’t an option, and placing them near the radiators (Plan C) has also failed, as our heating has stopped working (it was on the fritz when we first arrived, then was fixed, and now has thrown in the towel again). We call Francesca to let her know, and she says she’ll try to call Paola, who will call the heating man. We keep our fingers crossed. Plan D – for underwear at least – was to use the hairdryer in the apartment. That plan fell through when I found the hairdryer sitting in a small puddle made by a tiny leak in the hot water heater (of which Francesca is now aware). In the meantime, we hang our dripping clothes on a clothes rack in the kitchen with a towel underneath. Without sun or heat, they will take several days to dry (I may need to add underwear to my shopping list).

We put on the clean and dry clothes we do have, and head out with umbrellas in hand to take a train to nearby Castelnuovo de Garfagnana. There, we wander the streets and stop at the one shop that is open at 2:30 p.m. when we arrive: a shoe store called Roberta. The woman minding the store, while originally from Italy, grew up between Britain and Italy, and speaks English. We browse, and she happily encourages us in our shopping, not that I need much encouragement. I come away with a stylish pair of boots (that she chose) and a pair of leather lace-up casual shoes. “I am not allowed to buy any more shoes,” I tell Judith, even as I’m eyeing another pair (I resist, but barely).

The clerk asks why we chose this region of Italy to visit, and I answer “google” (which is essentially the truth. We searched for potential travel locations in many countries, and were both drawn to this area of Tuscany). Judith tells her we’re writers, and she asks what we’ve written (she plans to do a little googling herself). I tell her Judith has written a children’s book, and she grabs a pen to write down the title (Gracie the Public Gardens Duck). She says she’s had some “famous” people in her shoe store, including a British politician (who was unknown to us, but to this woman’s sister, was considered quite a star). We head out of the store to explore some more, our backpacks a little heavier, our wallets a little lighter.

We visit a local museum housing costumes and artifacts of the village’s past, including a list of political candidates for a regional election in 1945. There were 46 candidates – and 560 voters! The successful candidate won by a landslide with almost 400 votes.

We walk back to the train station – still in the rain – and head for home. We are hopeful that the heat will have been fixed, but no such luck. We call Francesca, who has called Paola, who has called the heating man. However, it is, after all, a holiday, Francesca reminds us. The Italians love their holidays. Thursday was the actual holiday, and it would appear the holiday really started on Wednesday and will no doubt stretch until Sunday. Given that Wednesday, May 1 is also a holiday, one wonders why a person would even bother to work in between.

We eat supper at Il Borgetto, a ristorante/pizzeria in our village (we ate pizza there the other day, and it is by far the best pizza I have ever eaten). 

Tonight I decide to try the pasta – I order tagliatelli ragu, and Judith orders scallops with mushrooms (it turns out, the scallops and mushrooms are served atop pork and Judith is a vegetarian; these are the dangers of ordering off an Italian menu, even though the waiter tried to interpret for us. However, she ate it and enjoyed it all the same). I order prosecco (the waitress confirms that I know what I’m ordering by saying, “white wine with gas”). We top it off with dessert – a moist chocolate cake for Judith and tiramisu for me, with decaf espresso (it does exist here, much to my surprise). Both are delectable.

During dinner, I am intrigued by a little boy at the table across from us. He is probably about six or seven, and full of spirit (we have notice that Italian children seem to possess a certain confidence – whether innate or taught. We admire it). His eyes gleam with mischief. I make eye contact with him a couple of times and smile. He is not sure what to think of me. He looks at his mother, looks in my direction, and asks her a question in Italian that I interpret as, “Who is that woman?” or “Why is that woman looking at me?” I laugh aloud, which only embarrasses him; he looks away. I will leave him alone from this point on. Throughout the meal, he grows restless. He climbs under the table and out the other side, then crawls across the floor of the restaurant. His parents largely ignore him and his grandfather gives a disapproving look that needs no translation. When it comes time to order dessert and the waitress lists the selections, she need go no further than “torta cioccolato.” He is sold. “Torta cioccolato! Torta cioccolato!” he chants. Chocolate torte it is!

We take our time finishing our meal, taking in the atmosphere – the locals, the British family at the table beside us enjoying pizza and red wine, the couple in the corner who were here the other night at their same table. In this place, in this moment, life is simple. Food, drink and connection in abundance. We are blessed.